2019 is fully up and running now. Decorations down, excuses that we don’t know what day it is, gone. We now have another year to get sh*t done. I am not a fan of new years, to me it builds a pressure for it to be something momentous. I do however like the mental shift of feeling like you have another opportunity to learn and a fresh start. There is something quite relaxing about drawing a line under the previous year and going forward.
I spoke in my last post about not making resolutions but making a promise to look after myself. So far, this has resulted in, yoga nearly every day (I genuinely love it and on some days get up at 5am to make it to class, so that says it all). We talk to each other more about what we are grateful for and what we want to do. I am back into the swing of training for a half marathon and most importantly, we have decided to have a coach.
Reaching out to someone who has more experience and knowledge is always a good thing. For ages, I was of the mentality that I just need to work harder and then I wouldn’t need a coach. What I found however, is that you can be working hard, but not produce results. You can go off on a tangent and end up months later feeling like you’ve got nowhere. There needs to be a balance between personal responsibility and collaborative guidance and accountability.
What is personal responsibility? For me, in quite blunt terms, it’s looking at yourself honestly without excuses. When we are scared, sad, jealous etc., it is too easy to deflect our role in the situation and either cast blame to others, the market conditions or the economy, in order to take the heat off the role we have played in things not being how we wish them to be. I am guilty of this in the past. I didn’t do…. because this happened, or I can’t do it because of this, then I have to do that… The reality is usually because I was either too scared to start something or procrastinating, which is sabotage in itself.
When we can be honest, however difficult, we can at least start to break patterns and move forward.
Depending on your own personality type, you will either be a self starter, who can motivate yourself. You don’t need to keep account to anyone else, you will do it regardless. Or maybe like me, you have moments of this, but perform better when you have externally set goals, deadlines etc. In this case, having someone else to answer to can be the motivation to move. You are driven more by not wanting to let someone else down, or not wanting to let yourself down in front of someone else! (any people familiar with slimming classes will understand the latter).
For me, I am trying to get to a point of balance, where I succeed for myself and seek guidance and support to move me on faster. I am trying to avoid becoming dependent on someone else for my success. Matthew will read this and smile and say, “it’s becoming interdependent.” (I do listen)
Motivation Comes From Within
If you are just starting out in property investing, the road ahead can seem quite daunting. The best thing you can do at the beginning and throughout your time investing, is to learn. Having the right education will save many avoidable, costly mistakes. Also it will help you find solutions to mistakes that you do make (we are all human and in any field there will be mistakes). But, remember, learning, in the true sense of the word is not passive. It requires action. There are so many people who think that reading the books, going on courses, will give you everything on a plate, with little input required from yourself. Wrong.
Learning is a Verb
Verbs are doing words. The clue is in that. You have to be willing to actively learn, you can gain the theory from the classroom but you really learn it when you act upon it. When we started I didn’t know anything to do with property. We did courses and learned in the classroom, then we got out there and started practising. We got refurb costings wrong, but you learn. We made mistakes with time planning, but you learn. The fear of making a mistake will hold you back. There are always solutions, you just have to surround yourself with the people who can help to find them.
What’s the worst that can happen?
I listened to Brook Castillo on The Life Coach podcast. She summarised this with questions from listeners, her view was a game changer for me. A lot of people fear taking an action in case the result is, that it doesn’t work out. But, in not taking the action, you actually guarantee that what ever you want, won’t happen.
For instance, if you never view any houses or put in offers because you are scared you won’t get an offer accepted. You are making that outcome 100% guaranteed and are already living that now. What you’re afraid of happening, is actually happening anyway. You could change that, by taking the action; you may still have your offers rejected, but you stand a chance that you won’t.
What is going to make this year any different?
Whatever your answer is to this question, you have to mean it. Making empty promises and loaded lists of things you will do is great, if you will actually do them. Don’t play your life small, but make sure you are truly motivated by what you’re aiming for. Passive promises and ‘should do’ lists are unlikely to keep you going when it gets tough (and it does for everyone). You have to be fully committed. In the words of Tony Robbins, “strive for progress not perfection”.